Tuesday, April 18, 2006

Intimate Dancing

If you ever were in a long-term relationship then you'd know that the dance of intimacy involves coming together and moving apart. Early in a relationship, intense periods of closeness are important in order to establish the ground of a new union. Just as a sapling needs a lot more attention than a full-grown tree, budding relationships demand time and attention if they are to fully take root. Once they become more established, the individuals in the union begin to turn their attention outward again, to the other parts of their lives that matter, such as work, family, and friendships. This is natural and healthy. But sometimes.. A person would forget to look inward every now and then.. If a long-term relationship is to last, turning towards one another recurrently, with the same curiosity, attention, and nurturance of earlier times, is essential.

But..Alas..In a busy and demanding world full of obligations and opportunities, we sometimes lose track of our primary relationships, thinking they will tend to themselves. We may think that our love is strong enough to survive without attention. Yet even mature trees need water and care if they are to thrive.

I now feel I have made the right decision. No regrets.. And hopefully no looking back.."sigh"..
But if any of you out there is in that "long-term relationship" and really wants to maintain it. Then "communication" is the key to nourish that relationship. If you feel that a distance has grown between you and your partner, you may be able to bridge the gap by sharing how you feel. I somehow failed to do so. But, it was somewhat "intended" so.. Im not explaining this.. It's too complicated. Anyway..

You're in the same boat together and trying to maintain your relationship and keep it healthy and thriving. Express faith and confidence in each other, and enjoy the slow dance of intimacy that can resume between the two of you. :)

6 comments:

Lym said...

Awww, a virtual hug!

I agree with you a 100% ;)

Randall said...

Wow..Very well written.
Dancing of Souls..

Fast_HacKinG said...

What crumbles the long-term relationships? Carelessness? Obligations? What do you think would even make this so called long-term relationship into enmities between two partners?

I don't agree with you when you said that we lose track of our primary relationships, cos if you come and think out about it, it unequivocally our indolence on understanding what that certain relationship(let's say friendship) purely means!

Blind Melon said...

Hmm..lol..I'm sorry but my "friendship" crumbled down when I became careless,I think I took it for granted and at the same time felt indifferent if I actually lost it.

But you DO lose track of your relationship, specially if you're "away" to begin with! You start focusing on other points in your life, as I mentioned and in my case : Family, career..etc
And the other person actually senses when something is different, no matter how far they are.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for sharing the great piece of advice !

I've taken note! ;)

- Sophis

Anonymous said...

Nicely written, I liked what you wrote in the end. :)

Take care,
Senorita.